Tuesday, January 7, 2014

stay

I don't know how people have the heart to leave.  I know I wouldn't.  I understand people feel the need to get on with their lives, make choices that take them away.  But I honestly don't get it.  How do people make those choices without regard of the people around them?  That - people - is always what weighs heaviest on my decision-making.  For example, I would never make a choice to leave my mother to her own devices, regardless of what the opportunity is or how my life would be enriched.  It wouldn't matter to me.  I deeply understand that no matter who I am, I am nothing without family.  When I look at myself, it's not just me I am seeing; it's me and all my attachments.  Do I think my attachments hold me back, bound me?  No, I think my attachments keep me together.  My attachments are my glue, rather than my shackles.  I happily stay for the people.  It's not a sacrifice in my eyes.  It's just what you do.

But a lot of people don't think this way.  And it's depressing as hell to me.  I have a big pit in my stomach tonight.  I learned the Kid may end up staying in Ireland.  It may not end up just being a one-year stint.  Yeah, this news killed me.  I am not good at letting go, setting things free.  I feel as if I were to put my cards in, invest, other people should too.  It should be an honor system.  That's the thing about life, the way people come in and out - I don't understand it.  Why not stay?  Why not make that choice?


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